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Jessica wrote:

Hi, guys —

I am a freshman in college and I have been dating a man for more than half a year.

I thought he was the one for me until we started arguing about religion. He is Lutheran and I am a devout Catholic. I really do not know what to do because I really like him but he has made it clear that he will never become Catholic.

I am confused and need guidance.

Thanks,

Jessica

  { As a devout Catholic woman, what should I do if my Lutheran boyfriend is rejecting my faith? }

Bob replied:

Jessica,

The fact that the conversation turned into a contentious argument does not create a positive sign, regardless of the particulars.

A relationship is best served when two persons find a way to resolve things without conflict.

Let's get right to it:

  • Do you want your children to be Catholic?

Chances are a divided house will leave your children with no religion — loyalty to either parent creates a zero sum gain.

He would have to agree to have your children be raised as Catholics, and he sounds contentious on that issue so, cut and move on, or likely have a more difficult time raising Catholic children.

I think the decision is hard and painful but the best outcome often comes at a cost.

Pray for guidance and the Lord should grant you peace on which way to go.

Peace,

Bob Kirby

Mike replied:

Hi Jessica,

Just to add to Bob’s fine answer.

There is an abundance of fish in the ocean so don’t sweat it.

It is worth waiting for the one you can make a life-time commitment with.

Also, if things are this contentious now, over one of the basic aspects of a person’s being, their faith, think what the future will hold.

One of the first things my girlfriend told me was that she would never think of marrying anyone but a Catholic. I believe this is because she is very conscientious of the importance of faith in dating relationships.

I wish more questioners to our site appreciated her insight.

Ask the Lord in prayer to bring multiple marriage-ready, devout Catholic mates into your life.

Mike

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