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Judy Smithfield wrote:

Hi, guys —

I am contemplating becoming a Catholic but I have two problems related to two family members.

The first one is I have been married for 52 years (I am currently 71.) and my husband is a non-believer of any formulized religion or of even God Himself. He will never agree to be remarried.

  • Should I convert?

I am a Christian who was baptized when I was 10 years old in the Babtist religion and have never stepped inside the church. He will not stop me but will not wish to be involved in any way.

My daughter is against it. Period. And says I can go to any Christian church but I have not been to any church in over 13 years and do not feel the call of any Protestant religion.

I want to know your opinion on this question before this goes any further. Seeing that I will probably face these and other road blocks, I have attended two Masses to try and make up my mind and heart.


  { Should I convert if my Baptist husband and daughter don't want me to join the Catholic faith? }

Mike replied:

Dear Judy,

If you want to become a Catholic, yes, you should convert and talk to a Catholic pastor at a local Catholic parish about how to best handle your situation.

I also want you to know that you are not the only one who as been in this situation. In more than fifteen years of answering questions from our web site, I can think of other questioners who have been in situations similar to yours.

That said, both your unbelieving husband and daughter have to accept your desire to choose the faith you wish to.

  • Would they want you to tell them what to believe?

Ask them this question in lieu of their disappointed feelings.

From previous dialogues with Baptists, it’s my understanding that Babtists (this spelling is correct) are more of an anti-Catholic strain of the Baptist faith. For that reason, pray, talk to a priest, and keep attending Mass when you can (though you cannot receive the Eucharist).

If both your family members are putting emotions before logical constructive dialogue, the best you can do is pray for them. This is your choice, not theirs.

If they are open to logical constructive dialogue, tell them about our database of Catholic Answers to questions about the faith. They can search our database any time.

Write back if you have further questions.

You and your family may also find my Favorites and Scripture Passages pages interesting:

Prayerfully yours,


Bob replied:


Don't be afraid. If God is leading you toward the Catholic faith, I believe it is because He loves you and wants the best for you. All of Christianity seeks to follow Christ, but the Catholic Church holds the fullness of truth and is indeed the very Church Christ established.

Your daughter may or may not come around to your views and the same with your husband but God will love them and draw them toward Himself in any way He deems it best. That could be through you, or not.

Just follow Him no matter what.


Bob Kirby

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