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Richard Brice wrote:

Hi, guys —

I'm trying to help a friend.

She is Peruvian and her English is limited. Our good book says, a man and woman leaves their parents to become one. My questions are:

  • Can one be called a man if he takes his (so-called) wife back to live in his mother's house?
  • Does this not show that he did not leave his parents and therefore cannot be called a man?

A marriage is between a man and woman.

  • A marriage is the union of 2 and not 3, so if the mother continues in making her son's decisions is this not another sign that he was, (along with the fact that he still lives with his mother), not a man when he made the marriage promise?

My friend left this person because she found a home-made video of him committing adultery, along with photos of other women. She has left him for adultery but as a Catholic must forgive him and therefore cannot remarry.

This is why we want to know if her marriage is invalidated by the fact that he never left his parents.


  { Is her marriage invalidated because he never left his parents and the three lived together? }

Bob replied:


I would suggest she seek pastoral advice from a priest as to how to proceed if the marriage is truly beyond repair. Serial adultery is never a good sign.

Furthermore, in order to marry again your friend must seek an annulment and the grounds for such are based on a variety of factors including free consent at the time of marriage. There may be a good basis for such, as the evidence seems to indicate he was compromised from the start.

God bless you and your friend,

Bob Kirby

Fr. Jonathan replied:

Hi Richard,

It is not invalidating in and of itself. It could be a factor in a larger case for invalidity.

The woman should talk to her priest or local Tribunal.

Fr. Jonathan

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