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Caitlin wrote:

Hi, guys —

I am a non-Catholic who is married to a Hispanic Catholic. We are expecting our first child in August. His family are devout Catholics, but I have no desire to be part of being a Catholic.

I want our child baptized because it is a big thing in their culture but otherwise disapprove of it.

  • Can our child be baptized if I don't want to participate or approve of it?


  { Can our child be baptized if, as a non-Catholic, I don't want to participate in the Baptism? }

Mike replied:

Dear Caitlin,

Thanks for the question.

Assuming you were married in the Church, part of that process would be for your husband to get a dispensation from the local bishop to marry a non-Catholic in the Church. This process would involve your consent to be a witness to your husband raising your children Catholic.

  • If you promised to be a witness to having your children being raised Catholic, why would you not want to participate or approve of your child's baptism?

As to your question, the Church cannot baptize anyone unless there is a good hope that they will be raised Catholic.

If you weren't married in the Church, it's best to get your marriage convalidated first.
Your husband's local pastor will be able to help.

I hope this helps,


Fr. Jonathan replied:


As long as the priest has a founded hope from your spouse that the child will be raised Catholic and you are not opposing the Baptism and his raising the Child as Catholic, then it could happen despite the fact that you personally do not participate or approve.

Fr. Jonathan

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