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Bujang Jungan wrote:

Hi, guys —

Before I was married to my wife I was an Anglican follower but now I am following my wife as a Catholic. We plan to marry in the Church soon but I was told by a Father in the Church that if my wife was pregnant we couldn't have a marriage in the Church until my wife delivered our child.

  • Can you explain this?


  { Can you explain why Father said we can't get married until my future wife has delivered our child? }

Mike replied:

Dear Bujang,

If I understand your situation:

  • you are currently an Anglican who plans on joining the Church soon and
  • you and your future wife have had an out-of-wedlock child.

Given this you want to know:

  • Why did Father tell both of you that you can't get married until your future wife has delivered your new-born child?

I will defer to Fr. Jonathan for a good answer since he works on related issues.

Seeing you may be preparing to take RCIA classes in the near future, I would encourage you to consider buying a cheap copy of the Catechism of the Catholic Church to learn everything we believe as faithful Catholics.


Fr. Jonathan replied:


This is not a rule in the Church.

Rather, this is something the priest has sensed that you and your fiancée need.

Once the baby is born the pressure you are under to get married just for the sake of the child will be over and you will marry for the right reasons.

Priests do this especially when:

  • the couple is young or
  • the couple have only known each other for a short time.

Be patient and ask the priest himself why. If the priest does not have a reason, talk to another priest.

Fr. Jonathan

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