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Michele wrote:

Hi, guys —

My question is about baptism.

I myself am not Catholic and have never been baptized. My baby's father is Catholic, as well as his family. We are no longer together as I found out he was using drugs and has not cleaned up as of yet. His family does not attend church regularly except for his mother and even that is only to go to Confession.

  • If they want my baby to be baptized, would they be able to?
  • Would I need to be baptized in order for her to be baptized?

I believe in God, but I have respect for all the different religions and believe there is some truth in all of them.

  • Would they be able to get her baptized?

Thank you for your help!


  { Would his family be able to get my baby baptized though I'm not Catholic or baptized? }

Mike replied:

Hi Michele,

Thanks for the question.

I do find it strange that a Catholic family appears to not be practicing the faith but wants you to have their granddaughter baptized. The nerve!

Nevertheless, it is not their choice, but yours and your daughter's father's choice. The Church teaches that the parents are the primary educators of their children.

You said:

  • Would I need to be baptized in order for her to be baptized?

Yes! If your in-laws feel that is it so important that their granddaughter be baptized, why wouldn't they also feel the same way about you being baptized? You are her mother.

As for Baptism, the Church cannot baptize your daughter unless their is a good hope that your daughter will be raised as a Catholic.

If you were married in the Church, you should have been informed that the non-Catholic spouse does not have to become Catholic but does have to agree to the children from their marriage being raised Catholic, — a long with the proper understanding of what marriage is.

If you have not been married, now you know : )

In my opinion, you are missing out on a lot Michele. Pray privately for guidance from the Lord. Becoming part of Jesus' Body here on earth and in Heaven, as a Catholic, will make a world of difference in your life.

If you wish to go deeper, consider buying a cheap copy of the Catechism of the Catholic Church to learn everything we believe as Catholics.

Hope this helps,


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