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Kacy wrote:

Hi, guys —

I'm going to be having my first child in June and I would really like her to be baptized, for tradition's sake (my family is very, very Irish Catholic) but also because I found the church to be an enlightening place for myself.

My fiancé is from Africa, was never baptized and never really raised in a church, however he is very knowledgeable about it. I was baptized and received Holy Communion but obviously he did not.

  • Will we still be able to have our daughter baptized?

Thank you.


  { Even though my fiancé was never baptized, can we still have our daughter baptized? }

Mike replied:

Hi, Kacy —

Thanks for the question.

You said:
I would really like her to be baptized, for tradition's sake.

That is a very poor reason to have her baptized. Valid Baptism brings a new baby into the Body of Christ where she will be able to partake in Divine nature and fulfill her calling in life and the Church. She also receives many helpful graces to live out her life.

That's a good reason.

That said, the Church can't baptize any new born unless there is a good hope that he or she will be raised Catholic. If neither parents are practicing the faith, the can be no reasonable hope, especially in this culture, that he or she will be raised Catholic. (e.g. participate in weekly Sunday Mass and receive the sacrament of Confession on a monthly basis.)

Your fiancé doesn't have to become Catholic. He just has to agree to not interfere with the children of your love being raised Catholic. You may want to search on our knowledge base using keywords related to your question for similar postings. This is a common question and I may have missed something.

I would encourage your fiancé to consider buying a cheap copy of the Catechism of the Catholic Church to learn everything we believe as Catholics.

Also check out my favorites page. I think you'll like it. It will give you more reasons to appreciate being Catholic:

My Favorites home page.

Hope this helps,


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