Bringing you the "Good News" of Jesus Christ and His Church While PROMOTING CATHOLIC Apologetic Support groups loyal to the Holy Father and Church's magisterium
Home About
AskACatholic.com
What's New? Resources The Church Family Life Mass and
Adoration
Ask A Catholic
Knowledge base
AskACatholic Disclaimer
Search the
AskACatholic Database
Donate and
Support our work
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
New Questions
Cool Catholic Videos
About Saints
Disciplines and Practices
Purgatory and Indulgences
About the Holy Mass
About Mary
Searching and Confused
Homosexual Issues
Life and Family
back
No Salvation Outside the Church
Sacred Scripture
non-Catholic Cults
Justification and Salvation
The Pope and Papacy
The Sacraments
Relationships and Marriage situations
Specific people, organizations and events
Doctrine and Teachings
Specific Practices
Church Internals
Church History


Anonymous wrote:

Hi, guys —

I'm a confused Roman Catholic (guy). Due to my medical circumstances I'm not able to ever have a child with my fiancée. She knows it and we'll be getting married soon.

  • Would it be a sin to practice sex before we get married though we will never be able to have our own children?

  • Would it be considered to be a sin to have sex after we get married if it would mainly be for pleasure?

Anonymous

  { If I medically can't have children, can I have sex with my fiancée and is sex for pleasure OK? }

John replied:

Hi, Anonymous —

Thanks for your question.

It is always a sin to have sex outside of marriage. There are no exceptions.

To your second question:

Sex between a married couple has two components. The unitive and the procreative. A married couple is free to have sex any time they want so long as they do nothing artificial to frustrate the procreative bond between them.

If one or both can't have children, there is no reason why they can't express their love for one another through the gift of [sex|natural conjugal love] which God gave them.

It is a very unfortunate misunderstanding that married couple's can't have sex for pleasure.

All the Church teaches is that the couple has to be "open" to new life. As long as:

  • the couple doesn't engage in artificial contraception (i.e., the pill, condoms, etc, etc,) and
  • the couple is open to new life

and that includes couples who for medical reasons can't conceive. If they are open to new life, God can always work a miracle.

This is one of the most widely recorded miracles in the Old Testament. Many old couples in the Old Testament found themselves having miracle pregnancies, starting with Abraham and Sarah. Abraham was one hundred years old when he had a child, Isaac, with Sarah. (Genesis 21)

Sex between married couples is more than pleasure, it is unitive. You both give each other,
to one another. Your concern is for each other, not for yourselves. The man gives himself to his wife and is concerned with pleasing her, not himself and vice versa. Of course, this total
spouse-pleasuring is open to life, even if it's seems impossible.

John

Please report any and all typos or grammatical errors.
Suggestions for this web page and the web site can be sent to Mike Humphrey
© 2012 Panoramic Sites
The Early Church Fathers Church Fathers on the Primacy of Peter. The Early Church Fathers on the Catholic Church and the term Catholic. The Early Church Fathers on the importance of the Roman Catholic Church centered in Rome.