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Rosetta Rogers wrote:

Hi, guys —

I have a younger cousin whom I haven't seen in years. I'm pretty certain she is not a practicing Catholic, although she was raised in the Church. Her husband recently died (he also was Catholic) after a horrendous and prolonged illness.

She has always been "psychic" and claims she is going to a "psychic healer" for help with her encounters with "entities". She also states the Blessed Virgin has come to her. I want to counsel her not to go to this "healer" because I believe reestablishing her faith through the Church would be better for her.

She accompanied me to Mass last Sunday (we were at a family reunion) and said she said it was "very nice".

  • What can I do, other than to pray for her?

She lives in another state and is obviously not getting Catholic input for her problems.

Thank you for any help you can give me,


  { Seeing she is not getting the Catholic perspective, what can I do, other than to pray for her? }

Mike replied:

Hi, Rosetta —

Thanks for the question.

You are in a tough situation.

If she is more open to a "psychic healer" for help instead of the Church, there may not be much you can do.

One of the toughest things a person in your situation has to do is accept a [family member's or friend's] free will to do dumb things that over time hurt themselves. It's their free will, not yours.

Nevertheless, you should, in a charitable manner, make her aware of what the Church teaches in this area: (ONCE)

[From the Catechism]

CCC 2116 All forms of divination are to be rejected: recourse to Satan or demons, conjuring up the dead or other practices falsely supposed to "unveil" the future. Consulting horoscopes, astrology, palm reading, interpretation of omens and lots, the phenomena of clairvoyance, and recourse to mediums all conceal a desire for power over time, history, and, in the last analysis, other human beings, as well as a wish to conciliate hidden powers. They contradict the honor, respect, and loving fear that we owe to God alone.

In these situations, it can be hard to communicate a true concern for her well-being, by telling her what the Church teaches, while maintaining cohesion with her as well as other family members.

This is especially true if she has an animosity against the Church. Nevertheless, it's important to remember:

If you can't communicate with her, you can't help her, so strive not to
"burn any bridges of communication".

Prayer is always helpful.

I suggest:

  • pray
  • be a good Catholic witness to her
  • make sure she knows that you are there for her if she needs YOU.
  • If possible, I would encourage her to pray the Rosary; send her one by getting a FREE one.

Final side note: My answer can also be applied to similar situations where family members are striving to get their other family members back to:

  • Sunday Mass
  • the sacraments
  • etc.

It's tough, I know, because I've been put in this situation. As long as your family members know they should be going to Sunday Mass due to the third commandment you can have a clear conscience. You aren't responsible for DUMB decisions they make; even if it effects your god child.  The parents are the primary educators of their children; not the god parents.

The god parents are their to pray and assist the parents in the education the god child.

Hope this helps,


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