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Jane Doe wrote:

Hi, guys —

  • Does God ever stop loving you?
  • Does He stop loving you if you have sex with someone before marriage?
  • How do you know if God is giving you a sign?
  • Can I go to Hell if I have doubts about my faith?


  { Does God stop loving you if you have sex before marriage and how can you discern God's signs? }

Eric replied:

Hi, Jane —

Scripture tells us God is love (1 John 4:8); therefore God cannot help but love us.

This does not mean that we can't choose to reject God and thus opt to go to Hell; because God loves us, if we reject Him, He honors that choice.

One way to make this choice is to deliberately and knowingly have sex before marriage, spurning the natural purpose of marriage and disregarding His loving instructions (commandments).
Again, He doesn't stop loving us, but we stop loving Him.

To know if God is giving you a sign, the best solution is to discuss the details with a spiritual director.

Yes, if you maliciously and willfully cultivate doubts about the faith, you can go to Hell, but, as soon-to-be-blessed Cardinal Newman said:

a thousand difficulties do not make a single doubt.

An honest, sincere, lack of understanding where you seek answers is one thing; acting in bad faith is another. If you refuse to research the faith side of the story, choosing to give more credence to skeptics owing to bad motives (for example, to justify a sin, like sex before marriage which you want to commit), then you're on the wrong path.

When deciding what to believe then, you need to make an equal effort to research both sides of the story, giving each side an equal chance. In addition, purify your motive, that is, judge objectively and not based on what pre-conceived conclusion you want to reach.


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