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Nancy wrote:

Hi, guys —

My niece is a Unitarian and is searching for a church. She feels alone, is emotionally fragile and has no Christian background at all, other than the bad examples given to her by Catholic and
non-Christian friends. Her parents are Unitarian and very anti-Catholic, anti-Christian, and extremely liberal. My niece called and said she would like to come with me to our Catholic church on Sunday but is also exploring other churches as well.

Please help me in this delicate situation with reference to what she should consider when looking into other churches. She is so liberal and spiritually empty that, honestly, I am afraid that she would have a very hard time with even the most basic concept of the ten commandments, never mind becoming Catholic. I am leaving that up to the Holy Spirit to work out with her.

I am worried about the hostility this will cause from her parents, as well as for both of us, but I worry even more for her immortal soul.

  • Please provide some advice on the best questions she should be asking when exploring other churches.

She may end up joining a Protestant denomination just to soothe her parent's biases against the Catholic Church.

Many thanks and God Bless!


  { What do you recommend for my niece who is a faith-seeking Unitarian with anti-Catholic parents? }

Mary Ann replied:

Hi, Nancy —

You didn't say how old your niece is.

  • If she is a minor, you should ask her parents if you may take her to Mass.
  • If she is not a minor, then just take her to Mass, and let the Holy Spirit and the presence of Christ in the Eucharist work on her, and then just answer her questions.

Don't worry about all the details. We have natural law in our hearts. Prepare yourself with a good knowledge of your faith, and offer her a Catechism if she desires one. You can get a cheap one on Amazon.

Mary Ann

Nancy replied:

Hi, Mary Ann —

Thanks for your answer.

I know that I need to rely on the Holy Spirit for this, and I am worried that I will say too much or too little. I just don't want to get in the way of The Lord, but I also know I may be looking at the only opportunity for my niece to convert.

She is 39 years old, by the way, and is emotionally, socially, and financially dependent on her parents especially after her painful divorce from a fallen away Catholic, who may have not been a very good example. I could clearly hear the inner pain in her voice when she called to ask to come to church with us, although the divorce took place two or three years ago and there are no children.

I know I should encourage her conversion to Catholicism, but she can't even grasp the idea that premarital sex and living together is wrong!

I think that if I asked her what she would be looking for in a church, one of the things would be that it be open-minded about sex and other social issues we consider sins. This is not going to be easy for me or the Holy Spirit.  

Say a prayer for her!

Thank you and God Bless!


Mary Ann replied:

Hmmm . . .

I can see that she is very sensitive and would have some issues with Catholicism. Don't be shy, though. Protestants get converts because they are up front about their relationship with the Lord. If she asks, tell her of the joy the Eucharist gives you.

It basically comes down to this:

  • Did Christ exist?
      [We know he did, more so than even Julius Caesar.]

  • Did He say He was the Son of God?
      [He did.]

  • So was He crazy?
      [Even opponents of Christianity say he wasn't crazy.]

  • Was he lying?
      [Even opponents say he wasn't lying, that he was one of the best men who ever lived.]

    So He had to be telling the truth.

  • Now, what proof did He give?
      [He worked miracles and He rose from the dead.]

  • How do we know that?
      [Because many witnesses testified, gave their lives for that testimony, and worked miracles in the power of the name of that Risen Man.]

  • Where do we find the witness of those people, passed down in an unbroken manner from the beginning?
      [Only in the Catholic Church, which bears the witness to the deeds and words of Christ. Christ also said that He would pass on His word through these witnesses, and that He would guide them and give them His Spirit to be passed on to all, and that they would do this through preaching, Baptism, the Eucharist and the laying on of hands (ordination of those who would continue it).] [Sources]

So, if one wants to be Christian, one logically becomes Catholic (especially if one is free from cultural and familial malformations about Catholicism).

One does not have to become Christian. If one is drawn to Christianity, one should ask God (which she presumably believes in) to guide her.

There is a good book: Ten Prayers God Always Says Yes to.

Mary Ann

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