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Pancho Pistolas wrote:

Hi, guys —

  • Why are you so against gay marriage?
  • I mean isn't it better to let gay people live free and be happy instead of becoming a Catholic priest who sexually molests little boys?


  { Why are you against gay marriage when it's better to let gay couples live free and be happy? }

Mary Ann replied:

Pancho —

In themselves, the questions are absurd, not based in reality, and unconnected from each other.

First, no person, heterosexual or homosexual, has to molest children.

Second, the number of child abusers who are married should free us from any notion that marriage is any bar to child abuse.

Third, concerning homosexual marriage:

Marriage is not a union for happiness or love alone. In addition, It is, and has always been, an institution for procreation, for propagation of the human race in the way that best serves the developing human person: a father and mother united in love.

If love were the only criterion for marriage, then we should have:

  • plural marriages
  • marriages of best friends
  • parent-child marriages, and
  • sibling marriages.

In other words, marriage would simply cease to have any meaning, and all loves would be considered sexual.

Mary Ann

Eric replied:

Hi, Pancho —

For some reason some people seem to mistakenly think that only Catholic priests molest anyone. This is, I think, often rooted in their own psychological need to hate the Catholic church, probably because it bears witness to the Gospel of Christ on the morality of certain acts they are attached to.

In point of fact, molestations are committed by a wide range of individuals in various disciplines, from teachers to Protestant ministers to day care workers. In nearly every case, there has been a pattern of covering things up that resembles the situation in Catholic dioceses. Not that we shouldn't do better, we should, but the fact is that until recently, covering up was the commonly accepted way of doing things, wrong though it was. No one says, I wouldn't want to put my child in school because this teacher in another state molested a child a few years ago, but somehow people always find an excuse to denigrate the Catholic Church.

To answer the question, we are against gay marriage because God teaches us throughout the Bible in no uncertain terms, that men are not to have sex with men, nor women with women. It should be obvious that the human reproductive system was designed for uniting one woman and one man. This is its natural purpose, this is the way it works, so what God intended is made clear by the design of our bodies.

Since the human reproductive system was made for reproduction, and since marital union is an expression and sign of God's fruitful love for mankind as revealed in Scripture (God being the groom — the Church, of which we are a part, being the bride), the Catholic Church has always taught that sexual expression must always be open to life. This means no contraception, no masturbation, no sodomy, no oral sex that does not end in intercourse, and so forth. Consequently, there is no point to gay marriage as it would be intrinsically sinful to consummate it.

Suppose you granted that homosexual sex is immoral, but argue that we should live and let live and not prohibit those who disagree from getting married. The problem is that marriage is a public institution, and it's woven into our cultural and society. By allowing marriage you are imposing, on the whole populace, a cultural norm. When the state allows marriage, everyone is forced to recognize and acknowledge it. Moreover, you are proclaiming to all, including children of those who believe homosexuality is wrong, that homosexual marriage is a public good. In doing so you are undermining the rights of those who do not believe that homosexual marriage or homosexual acts are good. In fact you are ramming a most unpalatable cultural value down their throat, and teaching it to their children.

More importantly, it conveys the attitude we think is damaging our society, namely, that sex is just a form of personal entertainment and recreation. This concept, which after 40 years of societal change is self-evident to most Americans, is dangerous because it pits the powerful tendency of human selfishness against the most vulnerable: new human beings. When sex is seen, not as a sacred way of participating in the work of the Creator in bringing new life into the world, but merely as a means of gratification, all of a sudden these precious human beings become the enemy of desire. Respect for human life in all sorts of ways diminishes. The family suffers, and with it, society. What was intended as a means of purging us of our selfishness (through parenthood) becomes instead (in intentionally barren sex) a gratification of selfishness.

It is a fact that most Americans do not want gay marriage. When courts make rulings that impose gay marriage on a state, they are subverting the democratic process and thwarting the will of the people. This is not what our country is all about.


Mike replied:

Hi, Pancho —

The Church is against gay marriage for at least two primary reasons:

Because gay marriage is not marriage. As my colleague Mary Ann pointed out:

Marriage is not a union for happiness or love alone. In addition, It is, and has always been, an institution for procreation, for propagation of the human race in the way that best serves the developing human person: a father and mother united in love.

The secular world can define the word marriage any way it wants. That doesn't mean it is marriage.

Men and women were designed and created by God for the purpose of love, bonding, and procreation.

The husband mirrors God, the Father. The wife mirrors God the Son, Our Lord Jesus Christ. Proceeding from both the Father and the Son are the children of their love, the Holy Spirit.

The second reason the Church is against gay marriage is for the well-being of gay people themselves!

I'm a practicing Catholic and I live free, and am happy.

What they are confusing is freedom with licence.

I don't have the freedom to do whatever I want.

  • Can I drive on the highway at 185 miles a hour?
  • Can I always go through stop signs?
  • Can I shoot my neighbor?

  • If I am free, why not?

Only certain people, in certain situations can do this, like the police and military, and even they don't have total freedom; they have a licence to do it.  They have a limited authority to do these things to protect society from greater evils (criminals) for the common good of society.

True Freedom is what we should do, not what we want to do.

Those addicted to same-sex practices have allowed their natural lust or concupiscence, which all men and women have due to the stain of original sin, to be misdirected against their very own nature.

I believe this is mainly due to permissive parental behavior allowed at an early age.  It's also why having a formed Catholic Christian conscience at a young age is important.

Hope this helps,


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