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Jesse Gomez wrote:


My name is Jesse and I am a 19-year-old male college student. I've been dating this wonderful girl whom I have known for a year and I think we are getting pretty serious.  As a Catholic, I don't know if I should get too serious because she is not Catholic.  She's Presbyterian. I don't know how to confront her and ask her to convert because I feel like it would be too selfish and mean.

Although, she was thinking about becoming Catholic at one point in her life, the issue of praying to the Saints and to the Blessed Virgin Mother bothered her. She thought we shouldn't be doing it so that plan didn't work out.

I just need some advice on what to do.

Thanks so much,

Jesse, Violinist

  { Can you provide advice for a Catholic college man seriously interested a non-Catholic girlfriend? }

Bob replied:


You should be having discussions with your girlfriend about marriage and how you envision raising a family.

  • What else is the point of dating if not to find a life mate?

You will need to be articulate and well informed with matters concerning your faith that she questions, and above all, be clear on what you want for you and your children's future.

It is not selfish to consider the long view and ask someone whether they are willing to share in it.

You are both free now to choose. The further you go along without addressing these matters, the more difficult it will become and your freedom will seem compromised by emotional attachment.

Consider some of the Scott Hahn books. He and his wife were both formerly Presbyterians, and he converted to Roman Catholicism before she did. I would especially recommend, Rome Sweet Home. Read it and share it with her.

I'm glad you are looking at this now. God is undoubtedly already at work in you.

I am a Music Director at a parish in the Boston area and need a violinist for a Christmas concert.

  • Do you live in the area?


Bob Kirby

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